Everybody Loves Jargon
Ah. The familiar ring of jargon. You know… vague words associated with a specific topic.
‘Balance’ is one of the ‘personal development’ scene’s juiciest and most misunderstood terms.
It pops up everywhere from snappy philosophical artsy movies to good ‘ol Steve Pavlina to the latest issue of Men’s Health. It’s vague enough to inspire curiosity and has enough of an Eastern connotation to be hip and trendy.
But what the funk does it mean?
First thing that comes to mind upon thinking of balance, for me at least, is a tight-rope walker.
…the kind that you get at the circus. An acrobat, who walks across a taunt, tightly stretched rope or wire suspended high above the ground… and in their hands is a long pole that they use to stay balanced, and alive.
The confusion comes in because it seems like balance is a state of rest that you get to by carefully balancing the weight on either side or by holding the pole in the right way.
But here’s the problem: balance, in the personal-development sense, isn’t a steady or fixed thing.
People think that they can adjust aspects of their lives until they finally achieve perfect balance, a perfect fixed state of rest, steady and stable and perfect.
Life is way too crazy for that.
As soon as you manage to achieve “balance”, things change, as they tend to do, and allovasudden your balance gets thrown off by the flow of life.
…and if you’re lucky, you just mis-step and regain your footing, the crowd might gasp or maybe they won’t, and you set across to the other end of the tight-rope, as the committed acrobat you are. If you’re unlucky, you fall.
Harmony in Ideas: What is Balance?
Balance isn’t a steady state thing.
It isn’t a fixed thing at all; not a state of rest
Balance in life is a state of flow.
Things are always changing so the pursuit of balance as a fixed state of rest where everything is ‘perfect’ and stable just isn’t possible.
On a small scale, the body follows a circadian rhythm, a daily flow between left and right brain dominance. Ever tried to do something logical and mathematical only to find yourself drawing smiley faces on the page and doodling? Probably because the creative part of your brain was more active at that time of the day.
On a larger scale, well, I’m sure you know all about it. Things are always changing. And the more you try to pursue this illusionary idea of balance as an obtainable fixed state, the more you’ll find yourself frustrated and resisting the flow of life.
‘Harmony’ seems like a better term.
The notion of balance in and of itself – the idea of being in sync with life – is great. That’s the essence of balance in the Buddhist sense of the word. Total acceptance of what is. Yielding to the flow of life. Allowing yourself to flow with the river of life instead of resisting the flow; or the more common alternative, swimming upstream.
Instead of focusing on finding balance, focus on where you’re at right now and be there.
Instead of pursuing a mind-made notion of a state of balance where everything is perfect and you can ignore the changing nature of life, rather become aware of life and change with it, constantly sinking and moving with it, harmonising.
The balancing point is constantly shifting so shift with it, become it.
Continuous Balance and Harmony
Look within and notice where you’re at in all aspects of your life. Feel what you need instead of working on a mental construct of this idea of balance, this steady state of unachievable “perfection”. Listen to the body rather than trying to maintain a textbook diet. Go within and feel what your body needs, what you should be doing rather than trying to follow some vague idea of balance.
And things will change. So you change with them.
The balance you’re looking for is available every moment if you simply look within to where you are at right now… because right now is different to ten minutes from now.
Look within and tap into the harmony of life, yielding and moving with whatever happens, as it happens.
Shifting and regaining balance from moment to moment as life happens and flows.
Balance isn’t a fixed thing, it’s a state of flow.
Either you struggle to stay balanced on the continuously moving tight-rope of life, or you move with the tight-rope, with the flow of life. Yielding and adapting, living from moment to moment, tapping into the flow and harmony of life.
Struggle or harmony.
Endless pursuit or moment-to-moment real-time balance bliss.
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