“When it comes time to do something, don’t ask yourself “what should I do”, rather ask “what do I want to do?” ”

its funny how a few words can really change one’s view. Thanks man!

I am listening to an internet streaming radio called wefunkradio and oddly enough, the song that came on was Charles Wright’s Do Your Thing

[...] If I had to choose, I’d say Hate me or love me. [...]

Although my biggest gains in becoming more authentic have been through my social life I really believe that becoming less inhibited and more authentic musician and songwriter has also benefited my overall authenticity.

So what I’m saying is, practice authenticity in everything you do as it will have knock-on effects in everything else.

You guess it, it was horrible! So many times a day many of my actions, and what I said, was really to gain approval. Man that was shocking…

I’m coaching people myself now, and indeed I see how many people do things to get approval, not because they really want to do what they do. Guess what assignment I give them .

BTW this post is the first I read. Will surely read some other stuff too, I like your writing style.

def agree.

try=epic fail.

keep well mate
alex

thanks for such power words. really appreciate it.

cool to get in touch specially given the awwwsomeness of your site

man. i know all about that “please everyone” shadow. yuck just to think about how much that was my life for so long.

me too. felt so real when i was in it. now it’s a blur. a funny blur at that.

or maybe they won’t follow what you’ve started. but it doesn’t matter. because you’re doing what you want and being true to yourself.

keep well and in touch mate.
alex

thanks for stopping by mate

haha. your comment flashes images of matric wing. funny how sad and depressed most those “boychaaais” are now. sad really.

keep well and in touch man.
alex

cool to see you ’round these parts.

glad you digg.

if you liked this, you’ll love what’s next

keep well brav
alex

Sadly, I went a large part of my life living under the shadow of “how can I please everyone?” Having to adapt yourself to what you THINK are other people’s thoughts and expectations just sucks you of all originality and uniqueness, and I actually can’t help but chuckle to myself when I think back to why I used to do that.

Finally, I’m glad you mentioned that being true to yourself doesn’t mean being a(n)(insert explicit word here) to everybody you encounter. I’m not going to push others into the mud to better elevate myself, because that’s not right. However, I’m not going to push MYSELF into the mud either just because that’s what others expect of me. I think it comes down to being in tune with yourself — because once you are, you realize that you don’t even NEED the influence of other people in your life. In blazing your own trail, others will naturally follow what you have started.